about Relationship Coaching

Welcome to the Changing Room

The Changing Room is an online Professional Coaching Service.
A safe, confidential and private environment where you are free to explore your current thoughts, feelings and behaviours in and towards your current relationship.
This space is dedicated to encouraging and supporting you as you explore, evolve and build strategies to bring about progress through self-awareness leading you towards stability and the loving, deeply gratifying relationship you desire.

Introduction and background
Hello and a very warm welcome to the ‘changing room’ my name is Russell. I am a 57-year-old fitness and exercise expert and a qualified Life Coach. 
During the pandemic, I took the opportunity to study and qualify as a Life Coach with The Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC). 

iPEC is widely regarded as a leading coach training Institute. This American-based institute is endorsed by the International Coaching Federation (ICF). The ICF sets the standards for coaching worldwide including the coaching of Professional athletes.

I was becoming aware that although I was a caring listener and felt empathy, I did not possess the tools I needed to support my clients and help them move away from where they were. So like many others, I took the opportunity during the lull of the lockdown to re-train, choosing to acquire the skills to serve others in the area of personal growth. 

It has been through the process of learning, coaching and being coached myself that I have identified a specific passion for relationships and this is the reason I have decided to focus solely on the Niche of Relationship Coaching.

How does coaching differ from counselling and therapy?
Coaching has an overriding focus on enhancing life, improving performance and being the best version of ourselves.
Counselling and therapy, on the other hand, tend to focus on people with past trauma, reframing the past to improve the patient's future. Counselling and Therapy focus primarily on eliminating psychological problems and dysfunctions. Their standpoint is that the patient is broken and needs fixing to function properly.

Coaching is not appropriate as an example, for those who require medicines or drugs.

With coaching, the viewpoint is that the client already has all they need to aid their version of success in the future.
Coaching is about attaining any gains, big or small, anything that propels the client towards their meaningful goals!

How failed relationships impact our society:
The stability of our global society rests upon the stability of the household and the relationships within the household.
The impact that failed relationships are currently having on social, economic, emotional and environmental factors is extremely high.  

For example, children stuck between parents going through a divorce are much more likely to experience emotional trauma.

The environmental knock-on effect of one household becoming two puts extra strain on the earth's resources. 
Cases of domestic violence have increased in couples who have no choice but to live together, but separated for extended periods.
Divorce is not only extremely stressful in many cases it is also expensive. 
Not having a long-term loving partnership often leads to loneliness which has been associated with accelerated levels of dementia and physical health problems. This is not to say that many single people cannot be perfectly happy!
Research has shown that more than any other factor, successful, long-term relationships positively impact all areas of our lives. Perhaps surprisingly, more than any other influencing factor, healthy relationships have been shown to have the greatest impact on longevity.
In short, relationship breakdown affects health, wealth and well-being!

If there is one life hack that adds years to our lives and life to our years, it is the discipline of creating and cultivating our relationships! 

Why Coaching is NOT for everyone.
Are you willing to explore your strengths and acknowledge the weaknesses you bring to your relationship?
The fact is, it takes consistent effort, plus a hunger for knowledge/understanding and the ability to open up our minds to the possibilities of progressive change.

Working towards attaining and nurturing an open mind is NOT something that everyone is yet ready for. 
People can bring harmful habits to sessions which only serve to disrupt the process. How would you react to being called out for example; a lack of commitment, not being authentic, or for not being willing to answer questions fully and thoughtfully?

If more people valued home above gold, the world would be a merrier place. (Thorin Oakenshield)
We are living in a world of mass distraction where work and money are valued above all things. It’s true, we need money to survive in the modern world and yet, if you ask many people why they are working so hard, they will tell you it is for security, for their family. But the truth is that money can never provide the support we need when life challenges us. Actual love, support and compassion come from the people we have invested ourselves into. Possessions can never take the place of family and yet many families are breaking apart because they invest so little time and energy into their home lives. 

We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them. (Albert Einstein)
Many clients try to hold on to the very thought patterns which have created the struggles they are trying to overcome. 
The term, 'keep an open mind’ relates well to the coaching process. The fact is that it takes consistent effort, plus a hunger for self-knowledge/understanding and the ability to open up our minds to other possibilities that lead us to progressive change.
Working towards attaining and nurturing an open mind is NOT something that everyone is ready for. Examining and changing the way we think and operate is one of the most difficult challenges we can take on. George Bernhard Shaw once said, “Progress is impossible without change, those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything."

Are you willing to dig deep, explore your strengths and acknowledge the weaknesses you bring to your relationship?

Attitude is everything, pick a good one.
Our habitual thoughts can derail our best intentions and affect our attitude in all areas of our lives. Your attitude towards your partner and your relationship will determine the level of its success. The same goes for the coaching process.
The great news is that your attitude is, a conscious choice!

"Commitment is what transforms a promise into a reality.” (Abraham Lincoln)
Most adults are aware that great relationships are rare and that divorce and separation rates in couples married, or otherwise are high. The number one reason for separation in relationships is a lack of commitment. Number two is infidelity and the third is too much conflict and arguing.  
Roughly 66% of men and 74% of women think their partner should have worked harder to save the relationship. And almost 70% of divorces are initiated by women (This is based on research involving heterosexual couples).
No couples go into a relationship wanting it to fail but around 50% of first-time marriages do not last a lifetime. The fact is that without intervention, failing relationships will not survive.
It is clear that to succeed in your relationship/marriage, commitment and consistent effort are vital ingredients.

"There’s only one thing more precious than our time and that’s who we spend it on.” (Leo Christopher)
I’m not trying to convince you to agree to coaching, I am suggesting you think hard before agreeing to take part in this coaching process.

Through these five weeks of coaching, you will have the opportunity to gain and practice using some of the tools necessary to create a wonderful, loving relationship with your partner. 
Are you ready to commit to giving this process and your relationship your all? If your answer is no, then you will be wasting my time and your money and we don’t want that!

Non-negotiables

The Bottom Line is both you and your relationship deserve the best that YOU have to offer.
Great relationships do not grow themselves, they are never just a matter of good fortune. 
As powerful a tool as coaching is, it’s rendered impotent if you approach the sessions with a negative attitude.

Perhaps you have read and understood everything on this page, or maybe you still have questions. 
Are you interested in this relationship coaching opportunity?


Please feel free to call me during my coaching office hours at:
+31 (0)6 34 69 64 90

Monday - Friday:
09:00 - 14:00 & 15:00 - 18:00. (CET)


  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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